About Me

It’s hard to actually pinpoint a precise moment at which my life stopped being good and descended into the dark pit that I found myself at the bottom of on Tuesday 13th March 2012.  It felt like the end of the line that night, I was face down on the floor in floods of tears threatening suicide and only five days later coming to close to committing suicide before waking up and making the decision to sort this out.

I’m a thirty nine year old, father of two, but I had spent the previous few years steadily sinking into depression and struggling with an alcohol addiction, to the point that it destroyed everything I had and almost destroyed me, but I’ve turned it around, I’ve stopped drinking and made some big changes in my life.

Six months later I found the inspiration to start this Blog and share the moments that pin point my fall and my recovery, in the hope that just one person will find some inspiration in my writing to turn around their own lifes.

Wayne

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200 thoughts on “About Me”

  1. becky6259

    Thank you for visiting and following Mrs. City Boy, Wayne, and also for sharing with all of us your incredible journey. Many of us have been touched by alcoholism and/or depression in some way, either ourselves or through someone we are close to, and your being willing to share your journey may be a beacon that lights someone’s path and helps them along their way. Thank you for having the courage to put your experience out there to help others.

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Becky
      Thank you so much for your kind comments, I will definitely be continuing to share my journey for those very reasons, if it helps just one person it would all be worth it.
      Thanks again
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Richard,
      Thank you for your comments, I am certainly working past all the depression and addictions, each day get easier and therefore better, so onwards and upwards.
      You have a great blog with some very varied and fantastic photo’s, I will certainly keep visiting.
      Thanks again,
      Wayne

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  4. shreejacob

    Hi Wayne,
    Thank you for dropping by my blog and liking some of the posts there! Think it’s very brave of you to share your journey too! I’ll pop by to explore your blog soon! :)

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  5. Seenorwaynorway

    Admiring your guts and achievement. Hang in there! This is a ‘one-way street’ and you either move forward or slide backwards. The choice is entirely yours!”
    Thanks for following my blog! Operating out of the US I guess?

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Svein,
      Thank you for your kind comments, I live in England, on the edge of Robin Hood country in Nottinghamshire. I spent a few days in Bergen back in 2005 with the England Karate Team, a very beautiful place, shame there wasn’t more time there, but I look forward to seeing more of Norway from your blog.
      Thanks again,
      Wayne

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  6. God is Good

    Hi there. Thanks for visiting. It’s great that you are sharing some of your story to help others and in doing so share the path to recovery and joy. Blessings, God is Good.

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you for your kind comments, the words in my header are from the song The Precipice by The Classic Crime, the song is the reason I started this blog, check out My Favourite Posts and The Precipice, it explains all.
      Thanks Again
      Wayne

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  8. isaiah43123

    Thanks for stopping by My Hmmm Collection and deciding to tag along and for the courage to share your journey. We all struggle through some type of addiction and need the encouragement of others to help carry the load.
    Keep the Faith!

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you, I hope in my openness and honesty others will find strength in their own struggles, I was challenged by God to do this, I believe it will help others.
      Thank you again
      Wayne

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  9. judikruis

    That is GREAT news Wayne! I have seen several find new life after the bottle and it sure can bring lots of possibilities! God’s blessings in all you set your hands too.

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Judi
      Thank you so much, I will keep working hard and trusting in God, I am finding more things I now do that I never dreamed I would, it’s true the possibilies with God are endless.
      Thank you again
      Wayne

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  10. rslavoie

    Thanks for the likes and the follow at lifeinjoyfuljuxtaposition! What an encouragement to see God’s faithfulness in your recovery from such a dark time. You can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens you! Keep sharing His love :)

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you for your kind comments, it’s been a rollercoaster of a year, but things are so much better, I’m alive again.
      Thank you once again
      Wayne

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  11. feelingjoy

    Hi Wayne. Thank you for visiting my blog and liking my poetry. I’ve experienced depression as well as wanted to physically leave here on more than one occasion. I know I am the first receiver of my poems and now I”m practicing letting go of my fears and share them with others. Many blessings to you. Pam

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you Pam,
      At the time it’s not a great place to be, but we must take strength from the thought we have beaten it and moved on through the love of God.
      I am glad to here from others who have walked a similar path and I am glad you too have found a way to post your poetry beyond all your fears.
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Vicky,
      That’s no problem and thank you for following my Blog too, I am so glad you enjoy the sunrises and sunsets, I just love taking them.
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Jessica
      Thank you for return the favour and thank you for your words of encouragement, like all the great comments I get, they are so appreciated.
      Wayne

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  14. Kim

    Hi Wayne…..thanks for visiting and deciding to follow “Unwalled”; I am truly honored. I am glad that so many of my posts were a blessing to you. Be encouraged to keep pressing into God no matter what. May God bless, keep and strengthen you as you pursue Him. Shalom!……KIm

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you Kim
      Thank you also for visiting my blog in return, I look forward to reading more of your blog in due course.
      Thank you for kind comments.
      Wayne

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  15. Laura

    What a treat your blog is! Amazing, insightful posts, beautiful poetry, gorgeous photos, and such inspiration. I truly thank you for visiting my humble little spot so that I could come here. =) I will take encouragement from your spiritual success with sobriety, in my quest in likewise conquering my addictions. God bless! – Laura

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Laura
      Thank you so much, you comment is so very kind, I am so glad you enjoy my posts, I look forward to reading more of your blog in due course.
      Thanks again
      Wayne

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  16. Lily

    You sound like a very strong person. It’s not easy to turn your life around, but it sounds like you’ve made amazing strides. Baby steps, right? I’m glad you’re on a path to feeling good about yourself and making your life happy and bright again.

    Thanks for following my blog. I look forward to reading your future posts :)

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thanks Lily,
      It certainly is baby steps, I have my ups and downs, more ups I must say, but the downs can be heavy, but I keep stepping on.
      Thanks for the follow and stop by anytime.
      Wayne

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  17. ukgardenfiend

    I so agree with all the above comments. Sharing your story and acknowledging the addicto is a great step forward, the rest comes from those baby steps… thanks for coming and reading my blog and here’s hoping your life keeps going in the right direction from now. Come again!

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you for returning the favour and visiting my blog, also thank you for the great comments. It definitely is baby steps, I stumble at odd times, but I’m still on my feet, thank you again.
      Wayne

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  18. lolabees

    I’m glad you were able to turn things around for yourself. Hopefully having this blog will be an ongoing source of support and therapy for not just others, but also for you! In my own experience, that was the biggest surprise I received from blogging.

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you Laura
      I have certainly found some great therapy by writing on this blog and the feedback I get from others just drives me on to keep writing.
      It’s not always an easy journey, but when I write about it if I’m down it releases the pain, your right it certainly was a surprise when that first happened.
      Wayne

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  20. Le Clown

    Wayne,
    Good luck to you, what you are doing is courageous, and your family will only be better for it. I am going on 3 year sober myself. Take care,
    Le Clown

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  21. Jenny Cantu

    Hi, Wayne! Thank you so much for visiting my blog and liking “Hugo’s Story” …and for being interested in updates!

    You are a very strong person – SO thankful you didnt give in to the enemy’s lie and made a conscious decision, as difficult as it was for sure, to give life another chance. You have an extremely powerful testimony. Keep sharing and keep pressing into Him and His promises for your life! Jeremiah 29:11. – J.C.

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  23. fern

    HI Wayne, I have been a follower for months on my other blog “my depression chronicles.” I remember the before and after photo you posted and I was inspired by your honesty. I’m on the same path as you, just over 30 days sober. Congrats on your 11 months! Awesome job!

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  26. heniges

    Thanks for the follow! I look forward to following your journey as well! And also wishing you much luck and well wishes on the success of your journey!

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you so much for visiting and your kind comments, please feel free to pop back anytime and follow me on my journey, you are more than welcome.
      Wayne

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  27. destinysfreedom

    Wayne, thanks for visiting my blog today. I admire the change you’ve made in your life. You may not feel it, but you have a LOT of courage to do what you are doing. I commend you. I’ve struggled with a lot of pain in my own life – that’s what spurred me on to pursue every bit of freedom I could find. I’ve written some books to share how I found my freedom – many people have been helped by them. They include simple, daily tools you can use to get free from fear, insecurity, low self-esteem, etc. I personally use these tools every week myself because they work! The one on fear is on my website so you can see what it looks like and can try it for yourself, if you like. I also offer a free newsletter with 1 practical tip each month to help you become your best self. You can sign up on my website, if you’re interested.

    Keep doing it – don’t give up. You are not alone in this struggle – actually you are NEVER alone now that you’ve found the Source of all Comfort. :) -Sandy Walker, Freedom Coach, http://www.destinysfreedom.com

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Sandy
      Thank you for your kind comment and encouragement.
      Thank you also for your book sugguestions, I will definitely take a look around your website.
      Thank you again for your kind comment.
      Wayne

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  29. Jo - Over the Edge of the Wild

    Thanks for visiting, liking and following our blog Wayne. Your story is inspirational and you’re so brave to write about it here for others. I wish you all the best in your journey and will be thinking of you next weekend as you celebrate One Year!!

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Jo
      Thank you for visiting and following my blog, thank you also for your great comment, it was certainly a great weekend, one of the best of my life.
      Thank you again
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you so much for your amazing comments, I will certainly visit your blog again to read our great poetry, please drop by here anytime you like.
      Thanks again
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Shelly,
      Apologies for not responding sooner, I’m a little behind in that respect (well a monthif that’s a little), but that’s no problem, drop by anytime you like.
      Wayne

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  35. aram2255

    Wayne, thank you for stopping by my blog. After reading your story I am so glad that you read the blog titled “No Condemnation – The Answer To Mental Health Issues, Stress, Addictions and all of the Related Effects”
    I thank God for your life, I thank Him for sending His Son to die for us to set us free. I thank Him that as you continue to receive His abundance of grace (unmerited favor) and His gift of righteousness you will reign in life through the one Jesus Christ.
    And as He is today at the right hand of the Father so are you in this world.

    Thanks for following my blog,

    Alex

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Alex
      Thank you for repaying the compliment and visiting my blog and thank you for your very kind comment, I look forward to reading more of your blog.
      Wayne

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  36. ablessedpilgrim

    I am so glad you were able to get past those moments of debilitating darkness. Your success also is a gift to your family and to those reading your blog. I am now a follower. Thank you so much for visiting my blog and following! Blessings to you!

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Elizabeth
      Thank you for your kind comments, it’s not been easy at times and I guess there will be testing times still to come, but I will keep moving forward.
      Thanks again
      Wayne

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Ed
      I certainly like what I saw, I really like the atmosphere created by the black and white images, I will have to try that out for myself, as for my photo’s, I’m just lucky, I end up in the right place at the right time!
      Wayne

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  38. Awesome AJ

    Hi Wayne,

    Great To See Your story. You have became the Master of Your Own Fate, Captain of You Own Soul.

    Thank You for stopping by my writings.

    -Awesome AJ
    I am the MASTER of My FATE, I am the CAPTAIN of My SOUL.

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Thank you so much for your very kind comment, I think that’s the first time my blog has been called beautiful, thank you again.
      God Bless
      Wayne

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  41. TeachX3

    Glory to God, for another one of His children is home!! What a powerful testimony… I am so happy for you, may our Lord God bless you and yours in Christ Jesus, AMEN! :D

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  42. jaels

    Bless your heart. Most of those God calls to do great things for Him, or like me–to just speak of His glorious, transforming love and grace–have traveled a hard and stony road. There is no shame, nor condemnation–we are walking free in His grace–and IT IS GOOD. Let us encourage one another! your sis in Christ, Jael-Caddo (or just Caddo)

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Caddo
      Thank you for return the compliment and visiting my blog and thank you so much for your very kind comment.
      God Bless
      Wayne

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  43. lauriesnotes

    Thanks for visiting my blog. Your words resonate with my own journey. I look forward to reading more.
    Blessings to you-
    I don’t know that I would trade where I am now for a different path.
    Namaste,
    Laurie

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Laurie
      I with you on that, as hard as it has been, I wouldn’t trade any of it now, this time last year, I would have in an instant, but now I understand the purpose of my Testimony, we are both shining examples of what God can do in a life torn apart.
      Thank you for the follow and the kind comment.
      Wayne

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  44. Jennwith2ns

    I dated a guy like you once. I’m married to someone else now, but I still love stories like yours, because I hope for his sake, one like that will happen to that guy one day. Thanks for visiting and following the Jenn stories! Please feel free to comment any time.

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      1. waynemali Post author

        Thank you for returning the favour, I’m sure you will find the time to post again and I look forward to reading more when you do.
        Thanks again
        Wayne

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    2. waynemali Post author

      Hi Jenn
      Thank you for the visit and kind comment. Can I say, please don’t quit blogging, I’ve only just stumbled on your blog and look forward to visiting and reading more.
      Thanks again
      Wayne

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  45. realityenchanted

    Hello, glad that you are having better days. Wish you Hello, glad that you are having better days. Wish you Hello, glad that you are having better days. Wish you Hello, glad that you are having better days. Wish you well.
    Thank

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    1. waynemali Post author

      Hi Christopher
      Thank you, I have the odd day of despair, but yes better days, a lot better days now, thank you again for the visit.
      Wayne

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  48. Melanee

    Thank you so very much for visiting and following my blog. I have had friends who have reached the depths of despair. So glad you decided to take a different turn and live life.

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  49. xdanigirl

    Thanks for stopping by and the the follow!! I look forward to reading about your journey!! I can’t say that I know exactly what you are going through, but I do have an idea. I have depression, as well, on top of a small case of anxiety. I’m glad you decided to turn your life around!

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  50. Roberta

    Thank you for stopping by for a visit at i know i can dance, and for the follow. I too look forward to reading more about your journey…

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