The Seven Legged Spider

There are bright moments in my life, it’s not all doom and gloom, in fact since I put into action the plan to change my life there is infinitely more light than there is dark, dark moments almost seem like a thing of the past as they are few and far between.

One bright moment of laughter with my kids happened one Friday night, from the back room came running my six year old daughter, there was a spider crawling across her toys, she wanted me to just kill it for her?

Well, the rest of my household hate spiders, they despise them and are truly scared, but me I find them quite amusing. I don’t kill spiders, I usually throw them out of a window or door into the garden or even the next door neighbour’s garden, as long as they are not looking of course.

I caught the spider in my hand and proceeded to chase my daughter around the room with the spider, a bit cruel I know but we both had a laugh. After a quick run around the house I decided to make for the door and let the spider go free, but that’s where it went kind of wrong. I had the spider in my right hand, but as I am right handed and completely useless with my left I couldn’t open the door, so I switched the spider to my left hand, I opened the door with my right and threw the spider out of the door, job done, well so I thought. I turned to walk back to the room, but when I looked down at my hand I found a solitary spider leg was left stuck to my finger, oh dear! Obviously in the struggle the spider put up whilst switching hands, it’s leg got trapped and pulled off as I threw it from the door. I showed the kids the poor spiders leg, both of them found it both intriguing and amusing in equal amounts.

I updated my status on Facebook that night with the following post:

“I’ve just saved my daughter from a spider, unfortunately in the process of throwing the spider out of the back door I pulled off one of its legs by accident, so if anyone finds a seven legged spider crawling in their bath, please give it my sincere apologies.”

I never did see that seven legged spider again or hear from anyone who had seen it, maybe it’s gone into hiding and is plotting it’s revenge.

But only six months after being at my lowest, it was nice to have a few light-hearted moments and enjoy the little things in life, like having a laugh with the kids, rather than locking myself away from them with a bottle of wine in hand, unable to deal with any tantrums or the pair of them falling out, which I can tell you is a regular occurrence.

These little things can pass us by in the blink of an eye, sometimes we don’t see that a moment like this, that others may dismiss as trivial, can actually be an important moment in the life of others, when I look back now that was not just a good night, those few moments at that point in my life made it a fantastic night.

It happens in a blink
It happens in a flash
It happens in the time it took to look back
I try to hold on tight, but there’s no stopping time
What is it I’ve done with my life
(Blink by Revive)

Remember that we are supposed to enjoy the gift of life that we have been given, my life was saved, I have been given a second chance, I’m not going to let it pass me by anymore, I will cherish each and every one of the good moments and simply rise above the bad.

8 thoughts on “The Seven Legged Spider

  1. runningonsober

    I’m so happy you found my blog, thank-you! I had to smile at this post, because I too find myself scooping bugs up and tossing them out more frequently these days. Except for wasps. I actually wrote about that here:

    My friend Lisa, in the comments, pointed out that when she sends a bug into the next life, she says “Namaste” to it; I have started doing the same.

    I’m pretty sure spiders can do well on seven legs. Hey, if dogs and cats can get around fine on 3, and people can even get around on 1, then I’m sure a spider will be fine too. But just in case, be on the look-out for pissed off spiders, hahaha.

    I look forward to following your blog. You have a fluid, engaging and easy to read writing style. I love how you work a song into your posts as well; you and I both share a love for music. Feel free to click around on my blog roll- there are so many amazing bloggers writing about sober living; it’s such a wonderful and supportive community. Have a wonderful weekend, thanks again for reaching out!


  2. waynemali Post author

    Thank you so much for your kind words Christy. I’ve never really written anything before since my school days, thank you for your positive comments.

    There have been so many low points in the last few years, I thought it was important to post a more light hearted moment. Life is good now, not dark anymore.

    I’ll certainly have a look around. Thanks again.


  3. candycoatedreality™

    “…if anyone finds a seven legged spider crawling in their bath, please give it my sincere apologies.” Oh, thank you… you had me laughing with that line!! **giggle**

    Life is about the little joys. I grew up in the country and I’m not a fan of spiders either, but will pick them up to throw them out rather than stop on them. Now that I live in the city, I found a grasshopper in our building lobby recently… my neighbors thought I had lost my mind chasing the little thing around, all the while telling it I was only trying to help so stop jumping please, until I finally caught it so I could set it free outside!! haaaa!!

    Wishing you many more happy, joyous moments with your family!!

  4. waynemali Post author

    Thank you, I have more fun moments to write about yet, I will add them in due course, I remember things as I walk, I must make a note of them.

  5. Belle (Tired2012)

    thanks for reaching out on my blog, it’s nice to *meet* you 🙂 I’ll be following your sober adventures – the easy days and the crummy ones. Yes, if you’re coming up to 200 days you’ve got a celebration to organize! ~all best, Belle

  6. waynemali Post author

    Thanks Belle,
    Yes, tomorrow is 200 days of sobriety, I plan to start writing a post tonight, but will probably spend tomorrow night working, but definitely not drinking.

  7. nnkato

    thanks for introducing me to the song Blink-I love it. And thanks for stopping by my blog, cuz now I get to see yours! Way to go on your sobriety! And I actually trapped and released over a dozen fruit flies last week. It just felt good. Not sure if any lost a wing…


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